Virya Paramita - gardening the mind with diligence, perseverance and energetic joy

Not everyone is into gardening, nor is everyone fortunate enough to have a garden. But, we humans have consciousness - and if we choose to we can practise cultivating a beautiful mind with the same enthusiastic joy we might invest in our garden.

Like a gardener’s seed store, in the depths of our store consciousness we have a whole array of wonderful seeds, waiting to be sown. But this selection doesn’t just include lovely looking examples of fauna - there are also a whole selection of nasty weeds, if allowed to grow the type that could give us backache after hours spent pulling them out only to watch them re-grow.

These seeds in our store consciousness are a mixture of negative mind activity - fear, anger and ignorance and positive mental activity - understanding, compassion and forgiveness. Many of the seeds that exist in our store consciousness have been handed down from our parents, guardians, society and ancestors. 

To ensure our mind doesn’t end up as a garden of weeds, one whose angry stinging nettles hurt others we need to practice the same diligence as an expert gardener. We need to cultivate and water the positive ones so we can bring happiness to the upper levels of consciousness, as we strengthen these positive seeds we can bring more joy to those around us. The negative seeds must be watched carefully, if we see them starting to grow we must avoid watering them so they wilt and don’t take hold of us.

In relating to others we can take the same approach - we can notice when negativity starts to arise and do our best to prevent it. We can also encourage positivity and seek to provide the conditions for it to arise and remain.

The best opportunity to practise diligence is perhaps when conditions are particularly challenging and we’re faced with the frequent arising of our negative thought patterns and emotions. We can learn to be grateful for testing times and the opportunity to practise that they present.

This gardening of the mind should be carried out with energetic joy, diligence and perseverance. The seeds are there - it’s our job to cultivate those that will lead to happiness.

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Kshanti paramita - Patience/inclusivity

Just imagine if only moments after waking and feeling happy our mood immediately switched because someone we live with said or did something we didn’t like. Toilet seat up/down, wrong music playing, tea too hot or cereal not milky enough. 

What if all our interactions with the world around us were only a whisker away from setting us off, making us frustrated or angry. Perhaps we find ourselves saying our pet hates are slow walkers, drivers that don’t indicate or aren’t keeping to the speed limit. Maybe we even retaliate - raising our voice, dishing out insults and beeping our horns.

Is this behaviour necessary? Perhaps it’s ‘just who we are’, part of our personality, constantly saying things like, “I just don’t have the patience for this”, or, “that person is so frustrating”.

Patience can be considered to be inclusivity. The more inclusive we are, the more understanding of all the funny things that can happen to us and all the strange ways that other people behave, the greater our capacity will be to be patient with everything that goes on around us. When we’re open to all experiences without forcefully imposing our own desires on them we may very quickly find that our own state of mind is peaceful and steady and that this inner state transforms the outer situations we face.

The analogy of a cup of salty water sums up inclusivity or patience pretty well. The cup represents our capacity to love others. The salt, all the stuff that causes us to get irritated. If we have a small cup it won’t take long before we’re screwing up our faces and spitting out the salty water. However, if we have a massive body of fresh water, like one of the Great Lakes in Canada, we can chuck a load of salt in but because of the enormous capacity, we’re unlikely to even notice the saltiness.

Expand the heart, expand the mind, be open, be kind, love unconditionally.

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Patanjali’s Yoga Sutra Book 2 Verse 36: “Satya Pratisthayam Kriya Phala Ashrayatvam.”

I wrote the essay below as part of my teacher training in 2017 at Sangyé Yoga School. It's been slightly updated and is a bit longer than a regular blog, maybe.

Can the truth 'set you free' if it's also said that 'truth hurts'? What's the deal with truth, and why is it crucial to the Yoga practice? 

Both phrases might resonate – perhaps we've experienced a sense of freedom that truthfulness awards us when we have been honest after a period of concealing something, even a 'little white lie'. In moments like this, when the truth is told, people often experience relief, a lightness of conscience, mind and body, as the heavy burden of their deceitfulness lifts. 

'Truth hurts' most when we cling to the self-identity, emotions, and mental habits generated by our ego. As we journey through moksha-shāstra, the 'liberation teaching' of yoga, pain becomes manageable as we become more adept at questioning the notions of body, mind, emotions, possessions, status, achievements and other mental constructs and labels we might be clinging to.

Our path to living an awakened or enlightened life becomes more direct and easier to travel once we fully embrace Satya, 'truth' – embedding it in our thoughts, words, and every action we take.

Patanjali explains that 'actions and their results become subservient' for those well established in truthfulness. All of nature loves honest souls, and things come to honest people easily.   

Without a deep awareness, we may find ourselves avoiding the truth or adjusting our perception and description to suit our view of how things should be. This may temporarily make us feel more comfortable, but comfort is likely to be fleeting.

As children, we perhaps begin to lie to avoid the 'telling off' that we expect when we know we have done something that adults wouldn't be pleased about. 

We often lie to protect ourselves or others from a reality we dislike or would prefer wasn't a reality, 'the truth is too hard to handle'. Once we tell a lie, we may feel that we need to continue lying to maintain our story. This can go on for some time as lie upon lie pile up – lies can snowball out of control as more people become involved, and the original untruth spreads and becomes adjusted even further as people add their assumptions and emotional narrative to the story.

Living with dishonesty may be stressful and demanding work emotionally, but it can also become satisfying, even compulsive – riding our emotions can make us feel alive; they fuel conversations with others and allow us to wallow in pity for ourselves and our misfortune for experiencing suffering. People often say they love to complain.

We may keep falling into the trap of defining ourselves by our emotional responses to events rather than seeing things as they are. We blame situations and relationships we have experienced for our behaviour – "you did this, or that wrong"… or, "so and so made me angry", "I will never forget this", "more bad luck for me". This reliance on emotional responses to define situations and ourselves can become addictive, and fear leads us to anger and hate; frustration leads us to sadness and depression. We can become deeply affected, our bodies and minds becoming consumed and controlled by these damaging behaviour patterns. 

The perceived solidity of our ego and perceptions we hold about ourselves and situations hold us back. Allowing emotions to dictate our behaviour can mean we cultivate negative responses to situations that become patterns. As time goes by, these patterns become who we are, and they become more challenging to break, yet like everything, they are not permanent.

The way we cling to emotions and emotional responses is in part due to the emotional aspects of our minds evolving before the 'thinking' parts. If we always respond based on the predominant immediate emotion in each moment, we will rarely see things as they are. This misknowing or avoidance of the truth prevents us from reaching an enlightened state; it leads to more separation and moves us away from oneness. Instead, we become more disconnected.

We don't have to live like this; we can escape this disconnectedness. Our path to awareness requires us to accept and embrace truth. When we begin to surrender to reality, even if it's hard to accept, we will move towards a relaxed state of oneness in which we will feel unburdened, calm and free. 

So how can we embed Satya into our thoughts, speech and actions? 

To begin, we must allow ourselves some space and time. We need to create a stillness in our minds or slow them down momentarily to avoid knee-jerk emotional responses. As we've discussed, by reacting to situations that can cause us suffering instantly at a primal and emotional level, we may not see things as they are, and our fear or conditioning will drive our behaviour. 

Those far down the road toward inner freedom can slow down the response to stimuli within the primitive brain and allow themselves more time to process situations. Despite their challenges, they remain calm in equanimity, controlling their body, breathing, and maintaining unclouded thoughts. This self-control allows them to respond in a measured conscious way. Before an emotional response kicks in, they can rationalise the situation, then respond reasonably and peacefully, having seen things clearly, rather than acting with raw emotion and remaining blind to reality.

We should approach all situations in our lives with the same concentration and dedication that we bring to our yoga mats as we practice Āsana. When we mindfully apply ourselves to watching our thoughts, we can begin to recognise undesirable or irrational ones. We should consider thoughts and emotions, observing them but letting them pass without holding on to any feelings connected to them. We will learn that we are not our ego, nor emotions, and the false reality that these may create. We will then begin to see that nothing has eternal existence, and because of the nature of impermanence, things will continue to change. Once we accept this, we'll grasp less at things we're attached to or averse to, and a state of steadiness and ease will be cultivated. 

The practice of observing our thoughts may not be easy. The transient nature of the universe means that situations like our emotions come and go. We should accept this impermanence, and in doing so, we will realise that life is, in fact, less complicated, and we can choose how much we suffer.

When we practise yoga, we will experience both mental and physical challenges. Rather than getting hung up on asanas, we think we cannot do or find very difficult; we could acknowledge our thinking and let it pass, returning to focus on our breath. If we decide to see something as 'too hard or bad' because we dislike it or the way it makes us feel, we do not see the truth, we have failed to recognise impermanence and have attached a negative view to it that will prevent our progression.

Accepting how things are in any given moment is also key to becoming more precise about the situation we are in and how to progress positively. We should accept, understand, and not hide from what we know nor create an attachment to our views. 

Satya can and should be applied to the other moral principles of yoga – we may find that we are untruthful and selective in our application of the yamas and niyamas. If we are not truthful, we will not progress in a life guided by the principle of dharma, 'morality'.

We will all face difficult times, even in everyday challenges – managing a household, conflict with colleagues, disagreements with family members or others. In practising patience with a focus on Satya, we will continue to move towards a position where we understand that we are not what we appear to be; we are not born with a fixed personality or set of traits. Though certain behaviours may represent our current personality, we can change and constantly evolve.

When truthfulness becomes firmly ingrained, how to live well will become clear. We will be more faithful to ourselves and others, making our decisions from a state of equanimity. Our behaviour will manifest in kindness and compassion and be based on logic and reason. Others will feel comfortable and calm in our presence – they'll be open and honest and reflect the goodness we demonstrate. Our interactions with others will be easy. 

We will also be less likely to follow society's harmful conventions and traditions. We'll have the strength and resolve to move away from these calmly and continue forward with understanding. 

All beings desire to be happy, well and free from suffering, regardless of the species whose physical body they assume. Through Satya, we realise this truth and will develop greater tolerance, patience and understanding. We will be truthful about how our actions affect others and more likely to behave in ways that benefit others.

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Happy New Year!

Was 2019 our ‘best year ever’ in which we got everything we wanted, or was it ‘the worst’, just a series of ‘terrible’ events for us to struggle through?

It’s easy to get caught up in viewing moments and events as being positive or negative; ones that we should be proud of, excited by, or jealous of (if others are having the fun), even frustrated or angry about - because it’s ‘normal’ to behave this way, ‘it’s just my personality’.

Perhaps we’re planning for 2020 to be the year in which everything goes according to our plan and we get what we want, and deserve; a year in which we’re really #livingmybestlife.

If we continue to look to extraneous events for happiness we might be on the road to disappointment. Instead we could ask ourselves, ‘despite the challenges I face am I able to think, speak and act in ways that contribute to a greater sense of ease and steadiness for myself and others?’ If we can do even a tiny bit of this we’re already ‘winning at life’.

Nothing is lasting and most things are outside of our control. But however 2020 pans out, moment by moment, we all have the capacity as human beings to cultivate more loving kindness, more compassion, more joy and also a state of equanimity. 

As we bring these positive behaviours into our relationships with others we might just find that we’re creating a more peaceful and happy experience, for not only ourselves, but everyone and everything around us.

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Is Yoga political?

When we practise Yoga we interrogate the mind and our experience of what’s happening to develop an awareness of our thoughts, feelings and behavioural tendencies. What we may discover is that much of what we think and many of the things we say and do have been learned from our ancestors, families and friends and society. This adoption of behaviours and traditions, without questioning their impact, can lead us to do things that may not only be damaging to ourselves but also to others. We may also find ourselves denying that our actions cause harm or even seeking to justify our behaviour, just because we deem it to be ‘normal, natural or necessary’. We might even seek to defend societal norms, perhaps because they offer us benefits, privilege or just align with our preferences - i.e. the gender pay gap, not allowing homosexual couples to adopt children or the right to exploit certain animals. 

As insight and awareness develop we may begin to see that we are not isolated from the world around us, in fact, we’re very much connected with everything else - we are political because our words and actions affect. When mindful of the impact we have on the world we can begin to behave in ways that contribute to the building of a more peaceful environment for everyone that lives here. We may see that it simply isn’t in our interest to think, say or do things that cause others to experience suffering.

Throughout the world, humans and other sentient beings are being exploited and oppressed. This oppression can go completely unnoticed as it is so ingrained in our belief systems. Invisible moral hierarchies permit the exploitation of some animals for transport, others for experimentation, entertainment or for food. In different countries, the acceptable species to exploit varies, but the same belief system of oppression remains the same. 

In some areas of the world social progress has led to the dismantling of some oppressive political systems and legislation that restricted the freedom of choice of certain people. In other areas, however, oppression remains or is being exacerbated by those that currently wield power. Oppression shows that there is a dysfunction in our relationships, not just as individuals but also as social groups, or as nations. When we find ourselves wedded to a mentality that permits oppression we will not only continue to harm humans and nonhuman animals but we will perpetuate the environmental devastation of planet Earth, the place we depend on for life. 

As Yogis, if we wish to work towards awareness and liberation from suffering we must see that our thoughts, words and actions are part of the bigger picture. In 1950 a father whose young son had died wrote to Albert Einstein asking for some comforting words. An excerpt from Einstein’s reply is below - it sums up very well the challenge we face as humans and how we should approach it.

“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

The letter was quoted in the New York Times on 29 March 1972 and the New York Post on 28 November 1972.

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Ahimsa today

In today’s society it can seem that we’re constantly being encouraged to forge a path of radical self expression, individualism and to become our ‘true’ selves. We’re observing ourselves constantly through the filtered lens of social media, personalising our belongings and engaging in all sorts of activities that are tailored to our needs. But perhaps the more we seek to carve out a lifestyle that represents ‘me’, the greater the risk of becoming dualistic in the way we see our experience as human beings. Are we seeing ourselves as different and separate from others, perhaps even better than others, or more deserving of what we consider we have ‘earned’. 

Ahimsa, non-harming, like all of the Yamas, is from a code of conduct, or set of rules, on how we should interact with everything around us. Rules and restraints aren’t appealing for everyone, especially in a world where we’re encouraged to succeed by accumulating material wealth and symbols that represent status at any cost. Even in a world of ‘woke’ yogis, Ahimsa runs the risk of being overlooked or having its true purpose adjusted to suit the needs of whoever is interpreting it. Talk of ‘Ahimsa for the self’ seems common among some today, it can be used to justify doing some harm if it means temporary happiness for the individual self. But when this happens suffering to the whole, the universe, increases; even when we look away.

If we wish to truly nourish ourselves and set out on a path toward liberation from suffering, the more deeply we can understand and abide by the Yamas, the better. None of us exist in isolation. Our interdependent relationship with everything in the world around us can be used as a powerful motivation to encourage us to think, speak and act in ways which will bring greater harmony to the world. Every action leads to a chain of reactions and when we can begin to look further down the chain we may come to understand that none of our small acts of kindness are wasted, even if it feels like we’re being stingy or repressing our desires when we want something that we know may cause harm to others. We will also see that even small negative actions may have been born out of a chain of suffering or are perpetuating it. 

Nonviolence does not mean that we become passive or indifferent to the problems that we see in the world. We can be fully aware and fully engaged, in fact in order to truly live in alignment with Ahimsa we must become fully mindful of the consequences of everything we choose to do. We must behave in ways that do not only benefit ourselves in any given moment. We become compassionate and understanding in order to contribute positively to the world around us and reduce suffering. Until we begin to respect and help reduce the suffering of others we cannot hope to become truly loving and kind and to contribute to their happiness.

What can we do today? We can work on opening our minds to see beyond the labels that we use to make sense of the world around us, ‘self’, ‘other’, ‘them’, ‘us, ‘English’, ‘French’, ‘male’, ‘female’, ‘gay’, ‘straight’, ‘dog’, ‘cow’. We can expand our viewpoints, considering those of others and being open to these. We can seek to recognise the root cause of suffering and identify actions we might take to alleviate it.

We must play our part in the society of the universe and play it well in order to create an environment in which all can be happy and free. Being serious about the rules or Yamas doesn’t mean we need to stop having fun, it just means we start being less harmful. The sooner we become less harmful and more disciplined the less likely we are to perpetuate violence and harm already taking place in the world.

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Santosha - 'renounce and enjoy'

When Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi, aka Mahatma Gandhi, was asked if he could sum up the secret of his life in three words, he quoted from the Isha Upanishad, ‘Tena tyaktena bhunjithah’ - ‘Renounce and enjoy!’. If asked to do this in two words he may well have said, ‘let go’.

This simple mantra stated by Gandhi sums up ‘santosha’, the inner expression of contentment or acceptance, the second of the Niyamas.

Like all the other Yamas and Niyamas developing and embodying santosha on its own will be beneficial but there is a powerful interplay with the others. In the case of santosha, much like loving kindness or ‘maitri’, when we are able to accept without preference and be content with the experiences we face, we will be able to enjoy these for what they are and do so with a state of equanimity.

As human beings we have a tendency to allow our minds to race forward to events that we’re looking forward to, or are worried about, or back, reliving past memories, often wishing things had gone differently. Less frequently do we spend time considering how the present moment may indeed offer everything we need. 

Grasping at our preferences restricts our ability to be open and unbiased, the more preferences we have the more likely we are to complain, the more we complain the greater our sense of dissatisfaction with our experience of life. Some of our habitual patterns are inherited, passed down from ancestors and society. For example - we may wake on a rainy, windy and cold day and describe the weather as horrendous, terrible or bad. Neither rain, nor wind, nor cold are bad or whatever negative word we use to describe them - it’s our preferences that create this viewpoint.

Santosha offers us an opportunity to see and experience life differently, rather than constantly being tripped up by obstacles we may begin to embrace opportunities. Opportunities that allow us to let go and to stop trying to control everything around us. When we are able to continuously let go, truly renounce, we will begin to embody santosha and the contentment, steadiness and ease it offers.

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